Do people really throw parties where no one comes?|
Name: Paul Mission
It does in movies. For example in Valentine's Day, a gal throws an anti-valentine's day party in an indian restaurant
and no one comes.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 12:24 am
Not so much as thrown a party. but told a bunch of people to meet up at a bar for my birthday and have only a few show
up...so I just retry it the next night or weekend. I guess birthdays dont mean much after 21.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 1:24 am
Well I threw a party for my 21st birthday at my house and no one came because there was a freak blizzard that day. It
was a very sad day. I had all the decorations up and all the alcohol but no one to share it with :(
Saturday 31st of July 2010 1:55 am
I've never seen it happen but I guess the feeling would be akin to receiving an empty envelope in the mail
Saturday 31st of July 2010 1:56 am
I've arrived at a party where nobody else came. It's really akward, especially if you don't really know the host that
well. (ps, who's a bigger loser in that situation: the person who throws the party that no one came to, or the person
who shows up at the party that no one came to?
Saturday 31st of July 2010 2:35 am
Yes, it happens. It happened to me when I threw a bridal shower for my best friend. No one showed up but afterward
everyone had really good excuses.
We cried for a little while and then I made her and my sister play all the games anyway.
A week later I threw another one for her--a surprise this time, just in case it happened again--and there were lots of
Bosnia & Herzegovina
Saturday 31st of July 2010 3:47 am
It happened to me. My twelfth birthday I told all my school chums to come over for a party. I decorated the house with
streamers and all and made the food myself. nobody came at all.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 6:26 am
I was the only one to show up at a birthday party when I was twelve, although I think there were only about a half-dozen
kids invited. Also, a few years ago I co-hosted a picnic for a couple hundred coworkers and only about a dozen showed
Saturday 31st of July 2010 7:39 am
What about the reverse situation? You secretly throw a party and don't tell anyone, hoping that nobody will come, but
everyone finds out somehow and comes anyway.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 8:00 am
Name: Sean Jungian
Man, this is about the saddest, most depressing thread I've ever seen on Rob's site. Most people will not turn down
free booze & food. My friends and I used to joke about accidentally throwing a boring party - we called it a "Mary
Tyler Moore" party, since on the old show she threw the worst parties with only her coworkers attending.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 8:18 am
Name: Joshua McGee
I wonder if it would be more awkward -- for both host and guest -- to have exactly one guest show up.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 9:11 am
Some friends wanted to throw a Super Bowl party, and they even enlisted me to make the food in order to bump up the
attendance. (My cooking was widely known within our circle at the time.) There were seven of us -- me, my wife, our
daughter, our friends and their two kids. No one else showed, despite more than one phone call that they'd come
Saturday 31st of July 2010 9:57 am
I've thrown a couple parties where it was expected to be a large turnout, set up massive sound systems and dj equipment
and lighting and everything, then have 15 people show up... It's awkward at first but then you realize you have enough
alcohol intended for 50-100 ppl for 15 ppl and everyone gets trashed and dance all over the dancefloor since theres so
Saturday 31st of July 2010 11:43 am
We had two parties in a row where only a couple ofnfolks showedmup. We thought the house may have been jinxed. We
threw a New Years Eve party with trepidation, but it was huge! Try and try again!
Saturday 31st of July 2010 12:54 pm
When I was a kid, I couldn't have birthday parties -- no one would come, thanks to some dude name Jesus totally
overshadowing my festivities. The prick.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 5:40 pm
During a severe blizzard a few years ago, me and a friend made a perilous journey on foot to an "apocalypse party"
across town, and we were the only people who made it. As I recall, the hosts kicked us out back into the storm not long
after we showed up.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 6:12 pm
Having one tonight that might turn out that way.
Saturday 31st of July 2010 7:20 pm
Name: Miss Cellania
I went to a New Years Eve party in which I was the only guest once. Totally embarrassing. And several had called just
that evening to say they would be there. However, I have thrown several parties where I didn't invite anyone and the
whole town showed up.
Sunday 01st of August 2010 4:02 am
In Soviet Russia, the party throws you.
Sunday 01st of August 2010 5:43 am
I've never thrown a party, because I don't have any friends to invite.
Monday 02nd of August 2010 12:20 am
We had a month-long volunteer event, and at the end, we had a party for the volunteers because they worked so hard and
were so upbeat. One person came, and she wasn't even a volunteer, lol. It was embarrassing and sad. To be fair, we
didn't give people a lot of notice. Even for events I *want* to attend, I need to be hit over the head with reminders.
Monday 02nd of August 2010 6:55 am
I threw a part for my 14th birthday, and only one person showed up. I was such a pitiful child.
Monday 02nd of August 2010 5:27 pm
In law school I had a pool party. All the international students came, but none of the female American law students did
because they didn't want to be seen in bathing suits. Some of the meaner ones even implied I was a total perv for
having a pool party.
So even though there were some people there, they don't count because they were foreigner and not real 'mericans.
Monday 02nd of August 2010 7:52 pm
I threw a Cinco de Mayo party, but none of the girls showed up. Our crew of dudes dubbed it Cinco de Sausage Fest and
headed to the bar. It ended up being super fun and we still joke about it every year.
Monday 02nd of August 2010 10:39 pm
In an old job, my boss threw a party at his house once. He kept talking about how huge it was going to be and we were
pressured to attend. When I got there, my two cow orkers were there and nobody else. Eventually one other guy showed
up. My boss had like 30 pounds of burgers left over. It was pathetic and boring.
Tuesday 03rd of August 2010 11:01 am
I was the one person to show up to a friend's party. We speculate the friend has some kind of ruinous hosting
masochism, where they are compelled to plan elaborate themed parties then awkwardly harass large numbers of people to
attend beginning a month in advance without picking up on anyone's reluctance or other plans, thus driving everyone
away. Except me, I guess.
Tuesday 03rd of August 2010 2:49 pm
Last year nobody came to my birthday party. I mean, my boyfriend and my roommate were there. My sister showed up a
little later. It was pretty sad.
Tuesday 03rd of August 2010 3:22 pm
I once went to a party and was the only person to show up. But that may have been because I had the wrong date and was
a day early. It was rather embarrassing, but the host was kind enough to let me in for a chat anyway.
Tuesday 03rd of August 2010 5:35 pm
Yeah, I've been stood up on my birthday before.
Almost as bad... I was taken out to lunch by some of my friends and ended up paying for my own birthday meal. Woohoo!
Tuesday 03rd of August 2010 9:08 pm
Back in college, my roommate and I threw a birthday party for me. Invited 75 people and had sufficient liquor and food
for the festivity. A one-legged girl and her gay friend were the only attendees and we didn't know them. Important
life lessons for stupid college guys: Physically disabled girls like to dance just like everybody else and gay guys
won't hit on you.
Wednesday 04th of August 2010 12:11 am
I threw an orgy and nobody showed up.
Wednesday 04th of August 2010 8:07 am
Name: Rob Cockerham
Shandra wins with "ruinous hosting masochism"
Wednesday 04th of August 2010 9:04 am
I sent out invitations for my 8th birthday party and got no responses and no-one showed up. Everyone was out of town or
had other plans. Such is life when your birthday is on July 4. I never had another birthday party after that and now I
don't celebrate my birthday at all. It's just another day.
Wednesday 04th of August 2010 10:58 am
Name: Michael Scott from Scranton
I have thrown a party before in the basement of my office building and no one showed up...I am such a loser...
Wednesday 04th of August 2010 1:02 pm
I've shown up so late for a party that almost everyone had left, there was no food and almost no alcohol left.
Embarrassing. But I had a good excuse - my S.O. was buying a car and it took forever at the dealership.
Wednesday 04th of August 2010 1:03 pm
I've never been in that situation, but I'm waiting for Rob's cheery follow-ups:
My True Natural Disaster Story,
World's Worst Mass Transportation Disasters,
When Cancer Strikes Children and Puppies
St. Vincent & The Grenadines
Wednesday 04th of August 2010 2:14 pm
I once had the opposite problem, I threw this killer party in Kuwait and EVERYONE came.
Thursday 05th of August 2010 6:41 am
Name: Peter M
Yes, it does happen, especially to me ;( I even had a free bar too!
Thursday 05th of August 2010 2:14 pm
Had the opposite- a friend told everyone I was throwing a party (I wasn't) and it was the best party I ever had.
Everyone was there. and I swear Jesus was there because the beer and pizza miraculously fed everyone, though I only had
enough for three. And Rob is right about Shandra.
Friday 06th of August 2010 7:57 pm
It was middle school and my friend Kelly's mom was going to throw her a surprise birthday party at the local bowling
alley. She told me the time and date, so my dad dropped me off. I go in and NOBODY is there. At all. The decorations
were there so I knew there was supposed to be, but I sat there for an hour with the guy running the place...Nobody
showed. Not Kelly, or her mom or anyone.
Saturday 07th of August 2010 1:47 am
Do people still put up decorations for parties after, say, the 7th grade? Streamers and everything? It just makes it so
much more sad when no one shows up....
Sunday 08th of August 2010 8:09 am
I had a party when only about 4 people showed. When the previous party I had about 30 people crammed into my apartment.
I greatest consolation was the cleanup was easy.
Monday 09th of August 2010 12:38 pm
Oh man, Toneman, I hear you. Happened to me on my 13th. What a rough year. I was a nerd. Ended up having cake alone
with my parents. But now I earn the big bucks with my fancy degree, so I cry all the way to the bank.
Tuesday 10th of August 2010 10:11 am
Parties are for losers.
Tuesday 10th of August 2010 8:45 pm
Name: Sarah P.
I had a dream that I went to a tea party and they paid me a bunch o' money. Yah that would be cool.
Tuesday 10th of August 2010 8:47 pm
My wife and I once planned a big poker tournament party, complete with prizes for the winners. We invited about 20 of
our closest friends. A bunch of them canceled at the last minute, and in the end 2 people showed up. That was a pretty
Wednesday 11th of August 2010 12:32 am
Name: Evil Jim
My girlfriend recently threw a party to promote some environmentally conscious products, much like a TupperWare party
but with different stuff for sale. She invited scores of people from every social group she was a part of, knowing that
only a fraction would come. Unfortunately, NO ONE came & it was just her & the product rep for two hours. Not fun times
at all. :(
Saturday 14th of August 2010 1:37 am
Name: Gail B.
Just attended an Anniv. Party thrown by the wealthy elderly couple engaged. There were stale crackers, some pieces of
cheese, and pepperoni slices, some uncooked hotdogs still on the stove, 3 cans warm beer and 1 bottle of cheap wine. It
was easy to quickly exit-as it was in our condo. social room. I went to the bathroom and never went back.
Sunday 15th of August 2010 5:25 am
I once held a birthday dinner where not only did everyone have to cancel at the last minute, but I couldn't even go
alone because the planned restaurant was closed.
Tuesday 17th of August 2010 9:21 pm
We had planned a birthday party for my son for his 1st birthday and had invited like 5 families with 2 to 3 kids each. 4
had RSVPed, but all of them canceled except for one mom and her baby. We ended up scaling it back to just dinner and
cake. It was still fun, but very disappointing for my wife.
Wednesday 18th of August 2010 5:35 am
I sort of had this happen, though not due to a partying holiday.
When I moved into my very first apartment, we had what was planned to be a big housewarming shindig. Due to schedule
conflicts and life in general, we only had about half the guests we expected, so it ended up being a much lower-key
affair than we planned - but it was still great!
Thursday 19th of August 2010 2:02 pm
This just happened to me a month ago..I had planned a night out on the town with a bunch of people for my bday and last
minute everyone but 4 people cancelled. I was so sad..but i guess it happens.
Friday 20th of August 2010 6:06 pm
i think we should all just have one big party!
Friday 20th of August 2010 6:13 pm
My husband threw me a surprise 30th birthday party and tons of people showed up. They were all of his friends because I
don't have any.
Saturday 21st of August 2010 9:24 pm
Name: Charles U. Farley
I am in a Black Flag cover band. There are always people at our partys.
Friday 27th of August 2010 1:40 pm
.. it happens very often to me.. i threw a birthday party.. guests fought amongst themselves and i stood like a loser..
they guests parted and i was given an option to chose either of the 2 groups..in the end 1 group left and said we will
i again created an event for my party and invited 15 people.. NONE showed up.. they all came online on
facebook..updated their status..
Sunday 05th of September 2010 7:48 am
A couple came to our Xmas party when everyone else was out of town. They were great and exclaimed, "We have you all to
Monday 06th of September 2010 10:39 am
I just invited a bunch of people to meet me at a bar. About 8 people confirmed, and the other 20 or so that I invited
couldn't be bothered to RSVP or acknowledge the invite. Out the 8 who confirmed, two came. One person kindly sent a
text message to cancel. I made the best of it, but it hurt, and I didn't have very much fun. Now I just wanna get over
Sunday 12th of September 2010 7:24 pm
for my 21st i just sent out a load of flyers to meet me in a local bar. i wasn't expecting many but about 120 people
showed up! better than the 30th with 5 people! boo hoo x
Thursday 16th of September 2010 4:59 am
I'm throwing a birthday cocktail party for myself tomorrow, and the count is not looking good -- hopefully 13 when I
invited 30. Three guests are gimmes from one of my roommates, and three guests are my roommates! I'm not looking
forward to it, and I'm trying to psych myself up to make the best of it.
Friday 24th of September 2010 9:20 pm
Name: John O
Two birthdays in a row, I've put the general word out for everybody to come out and have a good time. Last year, 1
person I knew and her husband, and some other person I barely knew. This year, absolutely nobody. It makes sense. I'm
not a very good person.
Tuesday 05th of October 2010 9:22 pm
Threw a party at my house even I did not bother to attend and neither did anybody else. A sort of "anti-party." Good
thing a real attended party did not pass near. It may have caused total annihilation of the planet'
Wednesday 13th of October 2010 11:53 am
I invited a bunch of people over to my apartment for my 21st birthday but nobody showed up. I spent the night watching
(*soberly* watching I might add) Mr. Holland's Opus by myself.
Tuesday 19th of October 2010 11:44 am
My biggest fear is that no one will attend my 21st, as I just moved to a brand new city where I knew no one a month ago.
I'm making aquaintances, but don't feel I have any real friends :(
Wednesday 27th of October 2010 2:43 am
Name: La princess
I hate throwing X-mas parties because people never shows up....but this year will be on me...hopefully my closest family
will show, i will have great food n lots of liquor, i will enjoy it anyways ;)
Wednesday 24th of November 2010 11:32 pm
Pretty sad but, on the day of my 21st I got texts from a bunch of friends saying they'd be going to some graduation
party instead. I was all excited because I had all this liquor and music set up at my house and only three people had
shown up! 1 was a random guy from down the street and 2 were a friend and her boyfriend. Later a bunch of my boyfriend's
friends came, and it tuned out fun.
Sunday 28th of November 2010 10:45 am
We invited all of my friends to our house for NYE last year and no one RSVPed. Then a week before NYE my other friend
decided to have a party and everyone was "in." I didn't go, but I decided I'm never having an NYE party again.
Thursday 09th of December 2010 8:55 am
I give up on parties. I have thrown three parties this year, My Birthday, Halloween, and Christmas. Nobody responds
with Yes, and it so sucks. I am thinking about moving to Montana, ditching all my "Friends" here on the East Coast.
The worst part is everyone kept asking when I was having a party in my new house! Duck 'Em
Friday 10th of December 2010 12:53 pm
My birthday was Saturday night and nobody came. Now, after talking to me and realizing that NOBODY showed up they all
feel bad. Go f$#k yourselves!
Monday 13th of December 2010 8:06 am
Gave a party for my 6 year old twins one year, no one showed up. Never done a party for them since.
Thursday 30th of December 2010 10:05 am
Name: Secret J
I planned a huge Party for my 30th Birthday and Invited 40 friends. Thought that I had it all:
* Swinging Bachelor Townhouse
* Hot Tub
* Big Screen TV
* Spent over $200 in Meat and Booze.
Unfortunately what I didn't count on was a free concert by Pearl Jam on the same day. No one showed. Never threw another
Tuesday 18th of January 2011 10:18 am
This will prove how many friends I have:
I read this and now I want to play the sims.
Saturday 05th of February 2011 5:27 pm
I invited about 12 friends to a housewarming party - I ended up not moving the weekend I was supposed to and in all the
confusion and frustration with estate agents, solicitors and other pondlife I forgot to tell anyone... So everyone
turned up... to an empty house...
Sunday 13th of February 2011 3:19 am
I'm hosting a baby shower for my friend and it looks like maybe three people will come...if they don't show up I will
have her read this and hopefully she will laugh as much as I have!!! :)
Friday 01st of April 2011 10:48 pm
For my 12th BDAY, I invited several friends over for pizza, ice cream, cake, and watch the animated versions of The
Hobbit, Return of the King, and LOTR (we were all heavily into D&D and all things fantasy at the time). I guess that was
too geeky for all of them as no one showed up, my mom ordered pizza and I watched the movies alone while my mom and her
friends drank in the other room.
Monday 25th of April 2011 1:45 pm
For my husband's 30th Birthday we bought the big wrestling match on Pay-Per-View, we decorated with posters and signs
featuring all the favorite wrestlers of the moment, we made him a cake that was a giant cheeseball shaped like a
wrestling ring with Slim Jim ropes and sausage turnbuckles, chips, dips, beers... and NOBODY showed up. 10 years later
and he stil pouts about it.
Wednesday 27th of April 2011 6:10 pm
My sister invited a bunch of her friends to her 21st birthday recently. I was afraid nobody would show up since, if I'm
being honest, she doesn't maintain her friendships well. Anyway, that night I had to go to a wedding and by 11 pm, there
was still nobody at her hotel party. I felt really bad and when I showed up there were maybe 3 of her friends sitting on
a couch watching TV. I left to pick up a stereo and when I came back, music was somehow banging, the hotel was full, and
there were two gallons of Sailor Jerry's rum. I ended up drinking a bottle of Kraken rum by myself.
Wednesday 04th of May 2011 3:14 pm
Through FB I got in touch with some HS girls last year. I went to the reunions, and when I invited them to a get
together for a friend who was in from out of town, only one-showed. Who needs shallow relationships that suck the life
out of you? That's why I like being an introvert. Goes to show they never changed after 25 years.
Friday 20th of May 2011 10:51 am
Name: Mee Mee
For my 30th birthday, only 3 non-relatives showed up. I'm never asking for RSVPs again, because what's the point of
people RSVPing if they're not actually going to come anyway?
Sunday 22nd of May 2011 3:25 am
Name: John Doe
Happy birthday to all of ya on which no one showed up!
Saturday 04th of June 2011 2:34 pm
Yesterday my friend threw a party that was part-summer party/part 30th bday party for me. Other than her & my bf, all
the guests were HER friends. None of my friends showed up. It was a fun party, but when my friend asked if I was having
a fun bday party, I felt kind of awkward. Combine this with last year's bday party where 2 friends (plus their bfs)
showed up.. Im DONE w/ bday parties!
Sunday 10th of July 2011 7:38 pm
Name: D Mandy
I used to be stingy with invites to my "get-togethers", assuming everyone invited would come, and having a small house I
wanted to keep the events manageable. Usually I would get my handful of regulars, but then I had one no-show BBQ, and a
2-guest dinner party. That's when I realized I needed to invite at least twice as many people as expected. And have
Friday 05th of August 2011 1:31 am
I would invite maybe 50 people to my birthday party and 4 would show up...
Friday 19th of August 2011 7:32 pm
The Saturday of my 21st I wanted to have a party. I sent out over 100 facebook invites to my friends knowing maybe 20
would respond. I got about 12 yes's and maybe's. For a month I planned, spent all this money and time Only for 1 person
to show up. I cried once she left. Crying inside right now. This just happened to me.
Sunday 28th of August 2011 12:52 am
It never happens. Only you.
Saturday 17th of September 2011 8:05 am
Saturday 17th of September 2011 8:05 am
I've had this happen a number of times, to the point where I just don't plan to ever have another party. After a while,
I got the message from the people that I thought were friends: you aren't important enough to bother with, unless we
need something from you. Now, if my husband plans something, I know it will just be his friends. No one I invite will
bother to come.
Wednesday 21st of September 2011 7:46 pm
I had my 16th birthday party at a park on Halloween day, in the early afternoon. 100 people were invited and only my 5
closer friends showed up. It just gave me a reality check about how people are. I ended up throwing the pizza and cake
that my parents bought at an elementary school play ground later that night. I was very bitter about everything until
graduation. I still kind of am.
Friday 30th of September 2011 5:32 pm
Today is my 21st birthday and I wanted to get a small group of people together to go out for my birthday. In the last 6
hours, 7 people have cancelled, leaving me with exactly 1 friend to go out with. I'm thinking about calling it off and
Monday 03rd of October 2011 5:33 pm
When I was about 12, my church youth group wanted to have a Super Bowl party. Somehow we volunteered to host. I
planned games, bought and made food, put up a bunch of football-themed decorations and then sat and waited. There were
probably only 10 kids in youth group but it still was crushing when no one showed. I hated church anyway and I'm glad I
never have to go back.
Tuesday 04th of October 2011 6:56 pm
Oh Man!! I was reading this because I was looking for advice whether to invite my boss to the party I'm throwing THIS
weekend. Now I'm just really paranoid and preemptively depressed that no one will show up. I think you need a warning
at the top of this thread.
Thursday 06th of October 2011 8:22 pm